Deciding to spend the rest of your life with someone can be, if not will be one of the biggest decisions you will make in your lifetime and you will feel a roller coaster of emotions from choosing the ring to the actual proposal. We understand the pressure, it is a moment that will be remembered and perhaps retold for the rest of your life — don’t forget she’s also been dreaming about this ever since she’s expected her life to turn out like a Julia Roberts movie (Runaway Bride, not Sleeping with the Enemy). You know this girl better than anyone else (unless you met her two seconds ago) and we’re confident that she will be elated simply because you asked to take this new journey with her. As sure and “ready” as you think you may be, we want to make sure that your nerves or perhaps any “advice” you’re given don’t lead you to make any of these very common proposal mistakes.
5. WAIT FOR THE RIGHT MOMENT
Once you have purchased the ring, you don’t want the excitement of possessing the key element to starting your new journey to cause you to blurt out the four most important words you could say before the moment is just right. As some stories may seem funny over time, you want the story that she retells to be romantic. If she asks what your hiding in your pocket and you know the moment isn’t right, make up any excuse to avoid your cover being blown. You’re a smart guy and you’re going to know when the right time is and where it should be, just don’t let the excitement of it all rush a moment that you both will want to cherish.
4. TELL ONLY THOSE NECESSARY
If your best friend, your mother, your girlfriend’s best friend or whomever you decide to bestow the honor of joining you on choosing the ring or perhaps informing you want to propose likes to talk…DO NOT TELL THEM unless you want the element of surprise to potentially be ruined only tell those you know can to keep it a secret. As much as you would like to believe that your friends and family would not gossip, this is very juicy information and perhaps something they have been waiting to happen for quite some time and you don’t want your potential bride to be catching any details what-so-ever because it could ruin the surprise for her and ruin the chance of surprise them that you two are engaged.
3. PUBLIC OR PRIVATE?
Women can appreciate a passionate man; however, when it comes to a proposal as much as you may want to shout it from the rooftops that you want to spend the rest of your life with this woman, she may prefer something more intimate. Although the gesture may be genuine (or a personal dream of your own) you want her to be able to enjoy the moment and she may not be able to if she has an audience of any kind. Unless it happens to be where you went on your first date, we’d leave all of the family, co-workers and strangers out of it.
2. IS SHE READY?
All the decisions you’ve made have somehow led you to this amazing woman. We commend you for being ready to take this big step, but make sure you’re past your “honeymoon” stage and truly had a change to weather the good and the bad that come with all relationships before you make this lifetime commitment —not to mention that she’s also ready to commit too. If you jump the gun before you’re in the same place could scare her off permanently or result in an awkward response that you may never be able to recover from.
1. PROPOSING WITHOUT A RING
We understand that this declaration and request for a lifetime commitment should be more important than a ring; however, “in a recent survey by The Knot, “proposing with no ring” was ranked #1 as the biggest engagement faux pas a guy could make.” This is where we come in to save the day for you and alleviate any stress you may feel for picking out the “wrong” ring. We can tell you there are too many ways to determine what ring best complements your girl (Pinterest in a big one), not to mention your personal knowledge of her style and when you think you may not know, we have ways to reassure you how well you really know your girl. If you’re still unsure we can always set you up with a classic solitaire so you won’t leave empty handed, then you and your beloved can return and pick something out together! Honestly, we could write a book on ideas on how to avoid proposing empty handed, but that would take the fun out of actually searching for the perfect ring.